How To Love Yourself In 21 Seriously Easy Steps

Do you see self-love posts everywhere on your feed?

There is always chatter about self-love, self-worth, and self-confidence on social media every new year! You will be surrounded by posts, podcasts, and people telling you to love yourself more.

But what the hell is self-love anyway?

According to the Collins dictionary, self-love is- The instinct by which one’s actions are directed to promote one’s welfare or well-being, especially an excessive regard for one’s advantage.

In layperson’s terms, self-love is accepting and loving yourself daily! It is the ability to find yourself worthy of love, admiration, happiness, and care, even on bad days.

What Does Self-Love Mean?

Self-love is honoring and appreciating every part of yourself without any judgment. You value and treat yourself with the same respect and love, even on tough days.

Why is Self-Love Important?

“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.”

Rupi Kaur

Self-love is critical to our overall well-being, and it is a state of appreciation of yourself that translates into actions that support your spiritual, personal, and psychological growth.

It sets the tone of what you can accept from life and others. When you are genuinely in love with yourself, you reject anyone who tries to disrespect you and make you uncomfortable.

It also helps you to become mindful of yourself and your patterns. Eventually, creating better boundaries and not being a people pleaser.

How to Love Yourself:

If you have identified that you are not the most loving towards yourself, we are here to change that for you. The best part of loving yourself is that it is a habit or a skill you can achieve with practice. 

We have narrowed down 21 simple but effective steps to help you accept and love yourself.

1. Embrace Your Past Selves:

Forgive that version of your past that didn’t love you. Instead, embrace it to learn from it.

2. Celebrate Yourself:

Learning to celebrate your small and big wins helps you have more faith in yourself. 

3. Build Self-Care Routines:

Having a self-care routine is learning to take the time out each day to show up for yourself.

4. Don’t Worry About Others’ Opinions:

Treat others’ opinions like an IG reel. If found valuable, listen to it. If not, scroll past it.

5. Let Your Mistakes Guide You:

Learn to love your mistakes and failures. It shows that you tried, and your loss will guide you more than any success.

6. Process Your Fears:

Do not fear your fear. Instead, sit with it to understand the root cause, which will help you navigate when facing it.

7. Trust Yourself To Make Good Decisions For Yourself:

Have immense faith in yourself that every decision you make is the best. Even when it doesn’t work out, you will learn from it.

8. Put Yourself First:

Putting yourself first is not selfish; it is the foundation on which you build self-love. This is necessary for chronic people pleasers!

9. See Beauty In The Simple Things:

The best way to start loving yourself is to appreciate simple things that make you beautiful.

10. Stop Chasing Perfectionism:

There’s no such thing as perfect! It’s just trying to stop you from living your authentic life.

11. Make Gratitude Your Attitude:

Having a gratitude mindset is a game changer. Being grateful for even the tiniest thing in your life will make you appreciate it more.

12. Audit Your Circle:

Loving yourself is also choosing people that love all your versions. Drop them like a hot bun if someone uses you for their advantage.

13. Let Go Of Toxic Relationships:

Cutting toxic friends, lovers, and family members will increase your happiness by 5X.

14. Ask For Help When Needed:

When in trouble, ask for help. If it takes work, start by asking for small things.

15. Make Room For Healthy Habits:

Healthy and good habits are a way of loving yourself. Create new habits to show care.

16. Connect With Your Inner Child:

Remember the tiny you that had goals and wishes when you were young. That is your inner child; connect and honor her to advance.

17. Respect Your Uniqueness And Allow Your Authenticity:

There’s just one of you in this whole world, and this should be a motivating factor to embrace your individuality and uniqueness.

18. Set Boundaries:

Narrow down the non-negotiables of your life. This creates a thick boundary around people, places, and situations that go against it.

19. Meditate:

To love yourself is to learn who you are. Meditation will give you clarity.

20. Become Your Own Best Friend:

Treat yourself like you do to your best friend. Being your best friend will help you when there’s no one around for strength.

21. Learn To Accept Compliments:

Learning to accept compliments without feeling any cringe is a pro-level skill to master.

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We hope this list helps you to accept your true self and love yourself no matter what!